Whether you are a newcomer to the idea of P-spot play or just want to learn new methods to reach a prostate orgasm, you have come to the right place. The goal today is simple: how to achieve a prostate orgasm.
Here at GIDDI, we get off on knowing that you are experiencing the most pleasure possible while also being confident and safe with what you are doing.
Getting into the world of prostate play can be terrifying at first. Once you get the hang of it or even a better idea about it, you might even want to tell your friends!
So prepare yourself P-spot explorers for a one way trip to prostate pleasure paradise!
Before you can experience mind-blowing prostate pleasure, we should cover a few things first to ensure you are well prepared to take a ride on this train.
Start With the Prostate
So, why don't we start with the star of the show?
The prostate, or the “P-spot,” is right behind the bladder and right in front of the rectum. This gland is about the size of a walnut. It is also wrapped around the urethra and close to the rectum.
The prostate produces prostatic fluid, the fluid that feeds and carries sperm cells. After sperm is produced, the sperm will combine with the fluid, creating the generally white and milky sperm.
During sexual activity, the prostate will introduce semen into the urethra. On this path, the pressure of the system will reach towards final, climactic ejaculation.
The prostate also contains the prostatic plexus. The prostatic plexus is a dense collection of tissue that consists of nerves and nerve endings that branch out all the way to the head of the penis and urethra.
When blood rushes to the penis and pelvic muscles during arousal, these nerves play a big part in keeping an erection lasting longer and the sensations one feels during stimulation.
Since most of the nerves are rooted in the prostatic plexus as well the nerve endings, more direct contact to the prostate and prostatic plexus holds host to potentially deeper sensations.
So, whether the stimulation is towards the penis, the prostate directly, or other parts of the penile system, the prostate still plays an important role in any sort of sexual activity.
Curious about the ins and outs of the prostate? Click here for a more comprehensive description of this very important gland.
How To Have a Prostate Orgasm
Prostate orgasms are a unique experience for every person. So what makes a prostate orgasm different from a penile orgasm? Here are several differences:
When the penis ejaculates, prostatic fluid is only one part of the fluid that releases. The rest comes from other structures, including the urethral and bulbourethral glands and the seminal vesicles. For prostate orgasms, fluid will only come from the prostate gland.
While arousal and orgasm are complex processes that involve the brain, nerves, and hormones, in addition to sex organs, there is a lot that doctors still don’t fully understand about them.
What we do know is that penile orgasm generally happens through penis stimulation, and prostate orgasm through the prostate.
In general, prostate orgasms are considered to be more intense and last longer than penile orgasms. Penile orgasms are associated with four to eight contractions, while prostatic orgasms are associated with 12. So, while some men enjoy the sensation of prostate orgasms, others prefer penile orgasms.
Prostate orgasms require a shorter recovery time than penile orgasms. For that reason, prostate orgasms are often linked to the possibility of multiple orgasms. However, it is still possible to have a penile and prostate orgasm one after another or at the same time. This combination gives the most intense orgasmic experience.
As always, if you feel any signs of severe discomfort, contact your physician or a sex educator to find any possible health conditions that may play a role in your sexual health.
What About Prep Work?
Before getting into stimulation, it might be in your best interest to clear your bladder or your bowels before engaging in any type of prostate play.
Since your prostate is close to your urethra and rectum, at first or occasionally, hitting the P-spot may feel like you have to relieve yourself.
This may not feel too sexy, depending on what you're into, but it is totally normal. It is common for that sensation to arise, especially in the earlier stages of exploring the prostate.
Semen and urine come through the urethra, stimulation of the prostate thus may encourage urine flow. This is why some people turn to prostate stimulation when they are having trouble urinating.
Any entry into the anus at first could lead to a contracting bowel, which could release stool. That is why it is recommended to clear out your digestive or urinary systems before trying prostate play. This will significantly reduce the risk of any mess to clean up.
Techniques or tools to use to clean up the system include:
- Juice cleanses
- A deep-cleaning shower
As a general rule of thumb, it is best to use the bathroom before playing with the prostate – whether you’re single or have a play partner.
Finally, do not be afraid to use lubricants as you explore pressing the P-spot. In fact, we strongly recommend using lots of lube when engaging in any type of internal prostate stimulation.
To reduce the risk of infection, thoroughly clean your toys after use, check the toy labels before buying for erosion warnings, and look into water-based lubricants that are safer on toys.
Types of Prostate Stimulation
When it comes to prostate stimulation, different methods can stimulate the nerves in the prostate. Stimulation can vary by motion, object, position, and company.
Let’s start with the three most basic motions:
- Stroking – Also known as “come-hither.” Apply lube and insert your finger all the way in. Push toward the navel in a come-hither motion and slowly feel the prostate. You can use a prostate massager that stimulates the come-hither motion and strokes your P-spot with the perfect amount of pressure.
- Pressing – Control intensity by pressing on the P-spot as if you’re ringing a doorbell.
- Circling – Also known as “rotating,” moving your fingers in a circular motion will keep the prostate pressure more constant. The dual-motor design of our Thor massager powers a 360° rotating P-spot head, with three rotation speeds and 16 intense vibration modes.
Can You Solo Play?
Masturbating towards a prostate orgasm can include toys, but most importantly, it is best to start small.
Here’s how to get started:
- Apply a generous amount of lube to the anus
- Once applied, warm up by slowly massaging the anus and the area around it with your fingers
- When you feel warmed up and ready for penetration, introduce one finger into the anus
- Take deep breaths and try your best to relax your body as much as possible
- Try not to hold your breath and experiment with penetrating on an inhale and an exhale
- Once comfortably in, try to slowly reach to about the first knuckle length
- Remove your finger on an exhale, reapply lube to your finger and anus, reintroduce the finger in an attempt to slowly go deeper
- Take your time, you can always go deeper in follow up sessions
- Repeat the previous step until you reach up towards your belly button until you feel a round bulb (the prostate)
- With your finger, gently rub around the bulb to your comfort level (avoid using your fingernails)
- Whether it is a circular motion, a tap or a gentle press, find what your prostate responds to positively
- Remember to take your time, relax, and breath, proper prostate massage is a marathon, not a sprint
Once you feel comfortable with the beginner's finger play, feel free to explore other options like toys or other safe items to stimulate the prostate. It is important to have a clear understanding of what your anal sphincter can handle. Start taking baby steps and your body will open up to you gradually.
Play With a Partner (or Partners!)
This does not have to be an adventure you trek on alone. Prostate play, much like other forms of fellatio and stimulation, can sometimes blossom through the inclusion of another person.
One main course of action to get to a prostate orgasm is penetration. Types of penetrators include:
- Another penis
- Prostate massagers
- Plugs (specifically, butt plugs)
- Sex toys (specifically, anal toys)
Prostate milking or prostate play towards an orgasm through any of these methods may be best adventured into with a little experience first — diving into the deep end without any methods to help you safely stay afloat or comfortable during the process would not be advantageous.
As all our products are great for partner play, Vulcun, our most powerful vibrating plug triggers multiple sensations, creating intense waves of pleasure, and is perfect for partner sex.
Bottom-line is, introducing a partner or a few partners can be fun and healthy if everyone is clean and protected during sexual activity.
Much of the information above is helpful regarding internal prostate stimulation. Getting to the prostate gland itself may cut the intermediary out of the equation. Insertion holds host to many pros and potential risks (because if done right, there is not much room for cons):
Before all else, the orgasm itself is arguably the biggest pro here. Insertion and massage through the anus could offer higher sensitivity, meaning you’ll have deeper orgasms. Also, internal stimulation holds host to many different kinds of play.
The introduction of foreign objects into the rectum could hold the risk of introducing potentially harmful substances into the bloodstream. It is essential to make sure that anything that goes up there is clean and well-enough lubricated not to damage your system.
Sometimes it does not have to be an inside job. Getting to a prostate orgasm can be done through external stimulation as well. The perineum or taint is tied right behind the penis and in front of the anus. This magic spot has nerve endings that are connected to the prostate allowing for contact on the outside.
Technically, this may be a less stressful option to reach orgasm. Without penetration, you will not have to be nearly as mindful as the alternative. The massaging techniques are quite similar to internal massages, so you will not have to stray too far from what you might already know.
One big downside is that it might be harder to reach orgasm externally. The perineum is less sensitive than the prostate and can lead to less intense stimulation. This method is not for everyone and sometimes might seem to be too much work in the end. But once mastered, this approach can be a great addition to your P-spot tool kit.
Experiment with Body Positions
Now that you’ve found the best prostate massagers, don’t be afraid to explore new body positions. If you’re new to anal play and are a little nervous, we recommend starting solo to familiarize yourself.
Here are several positions you can try:
- Legs-up - Classic position popular among beginners and veterans.
- Face down - More advanced, gives you better control of your sphincter.
- Fetal position - Easy alternative to legs-up, great for focused prostate stimulation.
- Doggy style - Familiar and relaxing position great for partnered play.
The great thing about all these positions is that they can be enjoyed solo and partnered.Once you know what hits that spot, now’s the time to explore with your partner…or partners! If you want to learn more, check out our Best Positions for Prostate Massage guide.
Here at GIDDI, we hope that this guide helps you get started on an exciting journey of masturbation and the endless benefits of prostate stimulation.
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