When someone tells you to shove it where the sun doesn't shine, chances are they aren't talking about a prostate massage. Butt why not? That's their loss. Maybe you found the best prostate massager but have not figured out the best position for prostate massage that can take your orgasms to new heights.
A Note to Consider Before Embarking
Experience or confidence levels don't quite matter when it comes to prostate stimulation. Exploring new avenues is tough at the best of times (trust us, we've tried a few). If you're new to prostate massage or need a refresher, we have created the handy GIDDI beginner's prostate massage guide.
Whether it's yourself or your partner, that's all about the prostate massage; we're going to remove any frustration in working out the best positions for prostate massages - that will blow your mind.
That way, you can ease your way in gently without putting yourself off what will be the most exhilarating ride of your life before you're strapped in (or on)!
Butt First, What is the Prostate Gland, and Why is it Made for Milking?
These boots are made for walking... now that you have that song stuck in your head, it might be worthwhile getting this jingle stuck in your head, too - this prostate's made for milking, and that's just what we do!
The prostate also known as the p-spot (the male equivalent of a G spot) is a walnut shaped gland in the male reproductive system that sits tucked in behind the bladder and the rectum - it helps create and eject seminal fluid. It is chock full of very sensitive nerve endings, much like the female clitoris, not as many, but close!
It's important to understand where it lies in the body and how to access it, as that can help you find the best position and understand why we suggest the positions below! They are designed to get you to hit that prostate orgasm bliss in no time.
Further Reading: Guide To External Prostate Massage
As everyone is different, trying a range of positions is vital until you find the one that works for YOU.
Want to dive deeper into the prostate? Here's our guide to getting to know the p spot.
Solo or Partnered?
The great thing about a prostate massage is that you can enjoy your own company or play with your partner. But if you're new to anal play and are a little nervous about the prep work involved or any embarrassing mishaps, then we recommend going solo the first few times while you familiarize yourself.
As RuPaul would say, "If you can't love yourself, how the hell you gonna love somebody else?"
It is important to remember that any anal penetration should be discussed before diving into it with a partner - both partners need to be comfortable with it!
However, all our favorite positions can be enjoyed either solo or partnered. So, you can apply these to spice up your sex life once you know what hits that spot!
Related Article: How To Incorporate Prostate Toys in Partner Play
First up: Legs-Up
Legs-up is one of the ultimate classics. Some even say it is the de facto best position for prostate massage.
It's popular among beginners and more experienced, as it makes your prostate very easy to stimulate. In addition, legs-up play is one of the most fun options for solo play, allowing you to explore all the sexiest parts of prostate massage without having to juggle too much with your hands.
How to Get Into Position
If you haven't already done so, make sure that you lie down on your back somewhere comfortable, such as a bed. Some people like to place a pillow or cushion underneath their bottom. This provides support and can help relax your lower back and abdomen. It also helps to open the pelvis and angle it to the perfect angle, allowing you to reach the best spots easier!
You can then lift your knees to your chest, make sure that you spread lubricant on both of the points of contact and then let the action begin. Legs-up is a classic yoga position allowing the prostate to enlarge.
This position, when performed butt facing the wall, is ideal for you to pop your legs onto the wall when that prostate orgasm reaches its peak.
Face Down Prostate Stimulation
This underrated position is one of the GIDDI favorites. It can be mastered solo or with a partner.
It is a little bit harder to penetrate when facing down, so many people dismiss this as a little too much hassle.
However, once you have the hang of it, it might become your favorite, too! It has an added benefit: much like kegel exercises, this position gives you better control of your sphincter, which lets you grasp sex toys or a body part for extra X-rated fun.
How To Get into Position
It is ideal to understand that this position works in a sequence. It is best to get ready by finding a comfortable space to lie face down on, a bed, or something comfortable with space to stretch out on.
Once you've found your favorite position - you can get up and insert your prostate massager and get back into position lying face down.
Keep your knees down on the bed. You'd be surprised at how easy it is to do this instead of struggling to do anything when your body is in full pencil mode!
If you wish to achieve prostate induced orgasms without penile stimulation, it is best to lie on your side to minimize sensations present at the front of your body.
This one is an easy one with little to no serious flexibility required - it is also quite a gentle way to get to the sweet spot. If you are with your partner, this would be better than other options, including the penis. This pose is great for solo play because you can flex your muscles and get the most out of it.
How to Get Into Position
The best way to do this is to lie on your side, bend your knees, and breathe deeply.
Make sure your knees are as close to your stomach as possible. When you find yourself in this position, you will have no trouble reaching for your prostate: deep breath in, lube on, and slide one of your favorite prostate massagers in. Play around with where your legs are positioned - keep one bent with a knee to the chest for a good angle!
Don't forget to wedge a pillow under the bent knee - this is also a great way to brace when that orgasm hits!
New to anal play? The doggy style is a classic position for everyone! It is also the best way to start with butt plug training.
Very, very easy. Delving into prostate play might seem like navigating an octopus dance with too many arms and legs at first! But fear not, the doggy position swoops in to save the day, making it all feel like a breeze while helping you master sphincter control along the way!
It also gives you easy access to add in a little penile arousal if you enjoy penile orgasm.
How to Get Into Position
Similarly to the face down position, your top half is bent over rather than lying flat this time.
It is easy to get into this position by first inserting your massager, if using one, by squatting down. If you are manually massaging your prostate with a lubricated finger and insert at the squatting position this will allow you to get the right fit and feel.
Once you are comfortable, you can switch to a doggy position. Knees down, faceforward, butt raised to the heavens. We recommend slotting a pillow under your chest and face for additional comfort.
Further Reading: How To Insert a Prostate Massager
Seated Prostate Massage
Ready, steady, sit your butt down! This position is akin to sitting on your hands - only its designed to give into temptation instead of lead you away from it.
This is an easy position and doesn't require flexibility or any real confidence. It does produce one of the stronger prostate orgasms as it is intense and the pressure means that you can feel it intently. It does require the assistance of prostate toys!
How to Get into Position
Getting into position is easy find a comfortable seat, a good couch with cushions is best. Scoot your butt down into slouching and insert a lubed prostate sex toy.
This is easier done if you bring a knee up to your chest, foot on the edge of the couch seat.
Once comfortable you can scoot your butt backward and play around with the amount of pressure on your toy. This position is also great for penile stimulation. The additional pressure offers you full on internal prostate stimulation.
Bonus Position: Strapped Across a Lap
This one is for those who want to relinquish all control over to a partner. This position is extremely intimate and can lead to intense prostate orgasms!
Easy-peasy-pudding-and-pie, this will have the boys screaming, "Oh my, my!" This is a partnered position and can benefit your sexual relationship, building trust and intimacy.
How to Get Into Position
Start this position out with your prostate massager inserted already - if you have a remote-controlled massager, even better.
Carefully lay across your partner's lap - they can be seated on a couch or bed or sitting with their legs flat out in front of them. Nestle your crotch close to theirs.
Hand them the remote, close your eyes, and let them take you on a prostate milking journey. This is also the perfect position for your partner to offer gentle ass smacks!
A Combination of All of the Above
Any of the other positions we've mentioned here will also work for prostate milking. The secret to success is to try a few different positions first to understand what works for you and what feels most comfortable.
That said, go with the fetal position first since it's one of the most comfortable to allow the muscles to relax and get those juices flowing. If you want to learn more about how to milk your prostate, check out our Prostate Milking guide.
The Benefits of Prostate Milking
If you're new to prostate play and want to dive deeper into the nitty gritty of why it is good for you and why any sane person should add it to their sexual pleasure routine - here are a few of the benefits.
Prostate massage is a fantastic experience for so many different reasons. Aside from the health benefits of having your prostate massaged, they also increase ejaculation volume, providing a longer and more intense orgasm.
The main fact is more frequent ejaculation can significantly reduce the risk of getting prostate cancer.
Lower Urinary Tract Symptoms
Prostatic massage is one of the best ways to ease lower urinary tract symptoms. Whether your urinary tract is inflamed due to BPH or any other reason. Prostate massage can help to clear any blockages through clearing prostate fluid out as well as reducing swelling of the prostate gland.
You might be wondering, does prostate milking prevent cancer? Not quite. The truth is somewhat of a gray area as prostate cancer affects about one in eight men in the U.S.A.; doctors and urologists recommend milking the prostate as a way to lower and reduce the risks of prostate cancer.
This has to do with the fact that regular healthy ejaculation is an important function that can help lower the risks associated with developing prostate cancer.
Read more on how to check for prostate cancer at home with our guide here.
Suffering from erectile dysfunction? Massaging the prostate can actually help with that. Stimulating prostate can aid in blood flow making it easier to get and maintain an erection.
Whether you stimulate your own prostate before sex or incorporate it with your partner as part of foreplay - anal stimulation is one of the best ways you can help your erections!
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Also known as benign prostatic hyperplasia is a type of painful prostate inflammation that is more common as men age. It can cause a number of issues including painful urination or trouble emptying the bladder. Prostate milking has been known to help reduce the symptoms of inflammation while helping to clear the urethra.
Further Reading: What is Prostatitis?
Finding The Right Position for Prostate Stimulation
When it comes to prostate play you have to understand that the perfect position is unique to you. Whether you orgasm more intensely with socks on and in a seated position, or socks off and legs up against a cool wall - maybe even a little smooth jazz playing while you get comfortable in doggy position with your partner involved - it is all up to you what feels best.
So if you're the sort of person who feels prudish and even guilty about wanting to explore the best positions for prostate massages, know that you're not only improving your mental health and sexual well-being but also your physical health at the same time.
Now you're all loosened up and we've satisfied those curiosities, take our special quiz to find the right prostate massage toys for you!
Go on, treat yourself to something new today!