Picture this: You've entered your prostate exploration era, and now you want to get started. You get down to your birthday suit - lube in one hand - prostate massager in the other... Now what? Well - we are here to help guide you on that first insertion or even give you a few seasoned pro tips on how to insert your favorite toy for the best prostate massage experience!
It's frustrating not to have the proper tools or information to achieve this mind-blowing orgasm. So, we're here to help.
From prostate massagers to positions and even a few tips and tricks on how to make sure your experience with prostate massage is amazing!
Why Take It From Us?
If you're new to prostate milking and want to explore prostate stimulation but don't know where to start? Or maybe you've heard the rumors about the mind-blowing pleasurable prostate massage experience and want to have your own mind blown? Perhaps you have even heard about the health benefits (like assisting with erectile dysfunction, helping manage chronic prostatitis, and many others.)
Luckily for you, there are many ways to stimulate the prostate gland, including using the best prostate massager. While we usually associate vibrators with clitoral stimulation, what about the people who want to enjoy the feeling of prostate stimulation?
When getting started, you might feel overwhelmed as you embark on this new sexual journey to pleasure, but we promise you'll have nothing to worry about! Prostate massage is not that scary once you get the basics down. Not only are there multiple ways to stimulate your prostate, there are many different prostate massagers and toys that are built to suit your needs.
The best part is you don't need much expertise to give yourself the best prostate massage experience once you have the perfect vibrating prostate massager. But let's first cover a few prostate basics before diving into prostate massages and toys.
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What is a Prostate?
The prostate is a compact gland, approximately the size of a walnut, situated in the center of the pelvis. It lies just below the bladder and in front of the rectum. The prostate gland is found in individuals who are assigned male at birth and is enveloped by a network of nerve endings in the anal canal.
The prostate gland plays a vital role in reproduction. It produces prostatic fluid, a key component of semen. Additionally, the prostate muscles facilitate the forceful movement of semen into the urethra, leading to its expulsion during ejaculation.
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How Do You Orgasm Using the Prostate?
Besides being a crucial part of creating and expelling semen, the prostate is also your go-to spot for intense sexual pleasure! Think of it like the male G-spot.
Because it is loaded with sensitive nerve endings, it is susceptible (and we mean in the best way). The prostate gland swells when aroused, and many people find that putting direct or indirect pressure on it during sex (or even foreplay) creates eruptive prostate orgasms - so say goodbye to penile orgasms alone!
We all have heard of the G-spot in people with vaginas, but get ready to explore your own P-spot!
The best part of it all? Prostate massagers are built for your anatomy. Let's take a better look at them.
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Getting To Know Prostate Massagers
Now that we have covered where it is, its sexual function, and why it creates full-body orgasms - it is time to dive into finding the perfect fit when it comes to an anal sex toy.
Prostate massagers can be of many different sizes and are made from various body-safe materials, including glass, steel, and silicone.
It's generally best to stay away from anything made of jelly-like materials because there's an increased chance that bacteria can grow inside the toy. Prostate massagers can be non-vibrating or vibrating and can even be beaded like anal beads.
Prostate massagers can also have different types of motion meant to simulate life-like massage. These different motions include the come hither prostate massager motion, rotating prostate massager, and pressing, among others. The right motion comes down to personal preference. Exploration with trial and error is always encouraged. Also, remember that different sensations are sometimes needed depending on your mood or the kind of orgasm you're looking for!
At GIDDI, we have a plethora of stimulating and safe sex toys to use by yourself or with a partner. You can browse our range of prostate massager toy options here.
Why You Should Explore Prostate Massagers
If you are new to prostate stimulation, you might want to start with a prostate massager. Prostate massagers are designed for your body and guaranteed to hit the right spot. Whether you like being hands-on or hands-free - there is a toy made for you, guaranteed!
Prostate toys are made with a flared base, and you should avoid using toys not designed for anal penetration! They are also designed to work with your anatomy which is important to reduce any risks of injury with prostate massage.
Prostate Toys For Beginners
When it comes to any kind of anal play, we recommend that beginners start with prostate toys that are smaller in width. Smaller toys are less intimidating and provide easier entry and exit. They are also simple and easy to use—no frills attached.
Ready to get started? We recommend our Tomo II Prostate Massager Beginner Bundle. It's quite literally the prostate massager beginner kit designed to fit and make prostate massage easy.
Prostate Massagers for Pros
Or, if you have been stimulating your prostate with your fingers for a while now, you might be ready to experience a new sensation with our Thor Master Bundle.
Whether you're playing solo or with a partner, introducing a new toy into the bedroom is a surefire way to spice up your sex life.
Pro-tip: Avoid using other toys that are not designed for the butt or made from different materials that are not body safe!
LEARN MORE: about the Thor!
5 Tips for Inserting a Prostate Massager
Now that you have browsed our toys and are ready to use a massager, it's time to learn how to use it properly. There's no need to be nervous or intimidated — prostate massagers are easy to use and maintain. Here are some suggestions that can help you along your journey.
Hygiene
If you search "How do porn stars prep for anal sex?" on Google, you'll find the same tips shared over and over again. Prepping for anal penetration is simple and comes down to proper hygiene.
Before trying a prostate massage, use the bathroom at least 30 to 60 minutes before anal play and get clean in a warm bath or shower. Thoroughly wash and dry your behind.
You can also use unscented, hypoallergenic wipes as an alternative.
For a deeper more thorough cleaning, try anal douching using an enema bulb. Learn more about that in our Beginner's Guide to Anal Douching.
Pro-tip: Witchhazel wipes are perfect for cleaning your butt as it cleanses and disinfects and is especially good for post-anal play soothing the anal opening. Think of the nice fresh, and clean feeling - but in your butt.
Not Just Your Butt
For added cleanliness, consider using a condom over the part of the prostate stimulator that goes into your anus. This will make cleanup quicker, but you should still wash and dry your prostate stimulator.
Always use mild soap or a toy cleaner to clean toys, and if necessary, clean up in the shower or a bath!
We recommend sterilizing toys before and after use as well. You can kill germs fast and easily with our UV Sterilizer Bag!
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Relax For A Truly Pleasurable Prostate Massage Experience
To enjoy using a prostate massager, you must remember to remain calm. While using a massager, the muscles in and around your anus need time to relax. Explore, experiment, and figure out what is best for you!
You can light some candles, put on sensual music, or wear something comfortable that makes you feel sexy. If you are engaging in a prostate massage with a partner, take your time with foreplay.
The Warm-Up
There are thousands of sensitive nerve endings around the entry of your butt and inside around the prostate gland, which makes analingus or massaging the region feel amazing and relaxed.
Above all, remember to relax your pelvic muscles and breathe. When our body is tense, contracting our muscles, or disconnected from the experience, we block our pathways to pleasure. If your face and shoulders are tense and squeezed in anticipation - so will your rectal wall, which will add resistance. As you slowly start to unwind and take deep breaths, you'll be able to feel a more pleasurable sensation.
Giving a massage, especially an anal massage, can be a great way to arouse your partner and get them in the mood for prostate play. The body is full of sweet spots - be sure to find your erogenous zone that feels best for you) Make sure to take time with your partner and set the tone for what's to come next.
Learn more about getting warmed up with male erogenous zones.
Finding The Right Position
Once you are relaxed and turned on, find a position that gives you easy access to prostate stimulation but is also comfortable. Consider lying on your back with your knees or face down on your stomach with your partner behind you.
Here are some of our most recommended positions to deliver maximum pleasure to your prostate gland:
This position is achieved by lying on your back somewhere comfortable. A pillow under the butt helps to raise your pelvis and give you better access while relaxing your abdomen and taking a little pressure off of it.
You can also insert it standing up or in a doggy-style position, whichever is easiest for you.
You can then lift your knees to your chest, make sure that you put lube on both your anal opening and toy. Turn over onto your belly and enjoy the sensations.
Fetal Position
This is perhaps one of the most comfortable positions for a prostate orgasm.
Make sure your knees are as close to your stomach as possible. When you find yourself in this position, you will have no trouble reaching for your prostate: deep breath in plenty of lube and slide your prostate massager in. Play around with where your legs are positioned - one leg bent closer to the chest helps keep it comfortable.
Don't forget to wedge a pillow under the bent knee and perhaps one behind you for when that orgasm starts to take hold!
Seated
For this position, you want to be comfortable. It helps to have a couch and a coffee table pulled closer so you can play around with pressure. Take a seat with your lubed prostate massager inserted. You can also insert it while seated and add in extra penile stimulation for added sensations.
Lap
If you're into feeling dominated, opt to lie across your partner's lap with your butt over their thighs and stomach facing down. This position lets your partner penetrate you with the massager and offer some light spanks.
Heads up: This position can lead to a mind-blowing prostate orgasm experience!
Standing Up
The receiver stands up, with the giver seated or on their knees in front of them. This allows for direct access and stimulation.
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Avoiding Risks With Anal Play
Life is full of risk - with any kind of anal play, the payoff of pleasure is worth the risk. So, let's talk about troubleshooting those risks and how to avoid them in general!
Risks can range from small tears and bleeding to injury of the surrounding tissues, including bruising. Given the area that you're working with, it is vital that you maintain good hygiene and follow our pro tips.
Any good prostate massage can run the risks of injury - so always go slow and don't push it too far or too hard. Make sure you lube up and don't go too fast until you learn your limits.
Don't try to force a large prostate massager in without practice or prepping the area properly.
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Always More Lube
As we mentioned before, using your fingers can be a great warm-up or exploration tool for stimulating your prostate. Once you've lubed up your finger, and inserted it you can use stroking, circling, or pressing movements.
As you explore prostate stimulation for the first time, remember to take things slow and progress at your own pace. Everyone enjoys different feelings and sensations, so you need to take the time to figure out what feels best for you.
There's no one way to enjoy your prostate! As part of sexual and relationship therapy, trying new things in the bedroom might be what the doctor ordered.
Besides have we mentioned the prostate massage health benefits before? So it could quite literally be what the doctor ordered!
Prostate Play is for Everyone!
The key to the best prostate massage experience is experimenting with what works for you. Especially if you're new to any kind of prostate massage (aka prostate milking), can be a fun, ongoing process! Also, it is essential to remember that prostate massagers aren't only for gay sexual relationships.
If you have a prostate, then milking it or using a prostate vibrator for extra stimulation, no matter what your sexual orientation may be, is one of the best ways to achieve a full-body orgasm. They can also be used without a partner as a form of masturbation or sexual stimulation.
Sticking something up your butt won't "make you gay," but it will make you consider how you have lived so long without including prostate stimulation in your sex life.
If you are still unsure what is right for you, feel free to take our Quiz to find the right massager! Happy exploring—you'll thank us later!
