What is Prostate Milking?
Don't you love it when someone pushes your buttons? Well, maybe not most of the time, but this one might need a second thought. The P-spot, or the prostate, is a button you’ll want someone to push.
Sometimes, or as often as you are comfortable, prostate milking can have exciting results. Prostate milking is a prostate massage that produces seminal fluid—hence the term milking.
At GIDDI, we want to make sure that pleasure and healthy sex life are what keep you cumming and going. So let's dig deeper into prostate milking head-first (and well-lubricated)!
What is the Prostate?
Ever wondered why it is sometimes super relaxing to use the bathroom? Look no further than the prostate and its location.
The prostate, or the “P-spot,” is a gland that is part of the reproductive system in people born male, located between the bladder and the penis.
According to men’s sexual health specialist Paul Turek, M.D., the gland is about the size of a walnut that wraps around the urethra, where urine travels.
Given the right sensation, this walnut-sized gland could lead to massive eruptions down under if the right spot is hit.
Since your prostate wraps around the urethra, relieving yourself may feel quite soothing. This comes from the built-up pressure from those organs when waste is filtered and released.
The prostate is the main producer of the prostatic fluid that carries sperm cells. After spermatogenesis, aka sperm production, the sperm combines with the fluid, creating a white and milky consistency.
During sexual activity or intercourse, the prostate introduces semen into the urethra.
The pressure building inside the prostate then introduces the prostatic fluid and the semen, which are ejaculated.
Now, ejaculation does not necessarily have to make a guest appearance during a milking session, as there are methods to experience even multiple orgasms without the characteristic splooge.
What Should I Know About Prostate Milking?
Prostate milking is a prostate massage that produces seminal milking fluid.
A common misconception about milking is that it always leads to the final product of ejaculation. This is not always the case.
Prostate milking is focused on stimulating the prostate gland by applying direct pressure against it with a finger or prostate massager through the rectum or externally via the perineum (more on this later).
But the options are not limited! To stimulate the prostate, you can also use other tools like vibrators, dildos, and a prostate plug.
What Are the Benefits of Prostate Milking?
In addition to achieving a new level of orgasm, there are several possible health benefits to prostate milking, including:
- Easing the symptoms of painful ejaculation by releasing blockages in the reproductive system
- More intense climax with increased ejaculation volume
- Stronger and longer-lasting erections due to increased blood flow
- Possible reduced risk of prostate health conditions, discomfort, and swelling
Is the Anus the Only Place To Look?
First thing's first – you have to find the prostate. In the Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure, Charlie Glickman, Ph.D., mentions that finding the sweet spot is not always as easy as it sounds.
Queue the perineum. But what the heck is the perineum?
The perineum could be another avenue to stimulate the prostate. Depending on who you talk to, you may recognize it as the taint or the gooch.
For some, the prostate can be excited by pressing on the perineum. This sweet spot is tucked between the scrotum and the anus. The perineum sits down this long line, closer to the hole. However, it can be hard to locate the exact spot where the perineum can be pressed against the prostate.
Of course, since the prostate gland sits inside the body, it can’t make you feel good without a bit of help. It must be manually stimulated by a prostate massage.
Internal vs. External Prostate Massage
One huge factor to consider is personal preference. There is no one-size-fits-all method out there that works for everyone. Yes, there are more common methods, like internal milking. But if that is not your fancy, there is no need to stress about it—you’ve got options!
The prostate is around two inches away from parts of the rectum, and two inches away is not as far as you might think. Methods to get that P-spot riled include an insert that applies pressure on the prostate gland, such as a prostate massager or your partner.
You can also focus externally on rimming (analingus) and perineum massage. Your comfort level will help you decide—and all of the above can feel incredible.
Although here we are going over things surrounding prostate milking, we have developed a few resources for exploring internal or external prostate massaging options.
Now let’s get to the really good stuff.
How To Introduce Yourself (and Your Partner) to Prostate Milking
Being vulnerable with our partner can be tricky, and there are some biases surrounding anal play. But milking the prostate to orgasm has various methods of success, and often mindblowing results.
If your partner is curious but hesitant, try talking about how much it turns you on. Sharing your excitement and pleasure can break the ice and introduce something you may both love. And use quality lubricant before taking a trip down under, and use lots of it!
Be careful with what types of anal lube you use, as some varieties, like silicone lube, could lead to the decay of silicone-based butt plugs, dildos, or even condoms.
Here at GIDDI, we offer playtime-friendly lubricants that feel good and are also good for you.
First things first: silicone lube cannot, we repeat, cannot be used with silicone toys.
The most commonly used lube for anal play is water-based. This is because water-based lubes are tasteless, unscented, do not stain, feel like natural lubrication, and are less likely to irritate sensitive skin. Also, these types of lubes do not interfere with oral sex.
The Wicked Jelle Water Based Anal Lube is perfect for when you need to clean up quickly — just wipe down, and you’re good to go. This lube stays put and provides extra cushion and superior glide. Desensitizers have also been eliminated from this luxurious formula to ensure safety, sensation, and pleasure.
The Ride Bodyworx Water-Based Lube is infused with natural seaweed extracts, including Carrageenan, Nori, and Wakame, to prevent it from drying up quickly like many other competing water-based lubricants.
Practice the Right (and Safe!) Methods
Before inserting a finger into the rectum and searching for your (or your partner’s) prostate, slip on a disposable latex or vinyl glove.
The glove will not only act as a physical barrier to prevent the spread of bacteria but also creates a smooth exterior that will allow the fingers to glide inside with ease.
Stimulate the Penis
To intensify the sensations and relax the rectum, start by jerking off as you explore the prostate. This can help increase the chances of achieving prostate orgasm.
But if you like the idea of having a “pure” prostate orgasm, add prostate massagers to the mix! They are specifically designed to optimize prostate stimulation for better pleasure.
Scratch that, much better pleasure, with a vibrating prostate massager.
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Why Do I Feel Like I Have To Pee?
Since your prostate is buddy-buddy with your urethra and is a neighbor to your rectum, sometimes hitting the P-spot may feel like you have to relieve yourself. It is common for that sensation to arise, especially in the earlier stages of exploring the prostate.
Since semen and urine come from the urethra, prostate stimulation may encourage urine flow. Any entry into the anus could lead to a contracting bowel, releasing stool that’s built up against the anus. It is essential to clear out your digestive or urinary systems before prostate play.
What Makes a Prostate Orgasm Unique?
So, how is it different from the “pump-action” that does the job pretty well itself? Are you looking for more of a full-bodied experience? P-spot orgasms can cause a distinctly different type of orgasm than what some may consider “traditional” penile orgasms.
With stimulation introduced directly towards the source, the prostate may respond with orgasms that people describe as more full-bodied and longer-lasting than penile orgasms, while also increasing ejaculation volume.
Imagine an orgasm that reaches from the top of your head to the tips of your toes—full body chills and all. Rather than a localized sensation (as with a penile orgasm), a prostate orgasm can encompass the whole body and can last for much longer.
Prostate Milking Positions To Try
Bent over on hands and knees is one of the easiest ways to start. Get into position by kneeling on all fours and allow your partner to slide into you gently.
Lying Face Down
This position lets you rest your arms on your back while performing the massage. Lying face down can help you go for longer rounds before feeling tired.
Get on Their Lap
If you’re into the idea of feeling dominated while your partner milks your prostate, opt to lie across their lap with your stomach facing down and butt over their thighs. This way, your partner can penetrate you while offering some light (or hard!) spanks to build up tension.
Lying on Your Side
When lying on your side, raise your outer leg and make extra space, similar to lifting your legs while on your back. One of the benefits of this position is when your leg gets tired of being held up, you can roll onto your other side, raising the opposite leg!
The person being milked can get into a standing position, with the milker seated or on their knees in front of them. This position allows for direct stimulation and easy access.
Other Health Perks To Consider
Does urinating or ejaculating hurt? Some have claimed that prostate massages can help with discomfort and swelling related to penile ejaculation and urination.
People have gone on record to say that a good prostate massage has opened up blockages that they never knew they had in the first place.
In this study, researchers found that prostate massage therapy can even help doctors find chemical markers of poor prostate health.
Whether you want to incorporate prostate milking as part of a solo or partnered sex life, always start slow and make sure you use plenty of lube to minimize the risks of tearing and infection. Feel free to try using latex gloves if you're stressed about a mess.
At GIDDI, we want to make sure you have a wide array of options, methods, and knowledge to blossom your sexual experiences. So be kind to your behind. A whole new experience awaits!
How does the prostate work? - InformedHealth.org | NCBI Bookshelf
Evaluation of prostatic massage in the treatment of chronic prostatitis | NIH
Meet Dr. Paul Turek | Male Sexual Health & Fertility Urologist
Shameless Sex: #11 Prostate Pleasure and Health With Charlie Glickman, Ph.D. on Apple Podcasts