5 Steps to Achieving P Spot Orgasm
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5 Steps to Achieving P Spot Orgasm

You've heard all about the P-spot (the p should stand for POWER) and the power it holds. Now you are ready to hit that magical O and feel the pure bliss that a p-spot orgasm has to offer. That's where we come in - as self-professed prostate experts we know a little thing or two about how to make the most out of your prostate massage and how to experience every bit of pleasure.

We dive deep into the p-spot, how to stimulate the prostate, the power of prostate orgasms, the benefits of prostate play, and anything else you might want to know about the powerful prostate gland.

Are you ready to learn how to have a prostate orgasm? Let's dive-in!

What is the P Spot?

The p spot is a magical spot, it provides for the most gushy and delicious orgasms. Its primary function is to serve the biological male reproductive system. Its official name is the prostate gland. It is located below the bladder and smack bang in front of the rectum.

Its primary function is to provide some of the seminal fluid that sperm needs to move through and survive. The prostate is full of sensitive nerve endings that offer some of the most intense orgasms that rival and overtake 90% of penile orgasms!

Feel like getting to know the P spot better? Check out our article What Is the P-Spot? A Guide to the Male G Spot.

X Marks The P Spot

Now that we have established what exactly the male g spot is - where exactly is it?

To put it bluntly, the p spot is best located through the anus. It is the reason why anal play is as pleasurable as it is.

It is located behind the bladder and in front of the rectum. You will be interested to know that it can be stimulated from both the outside and the inside, with internal and external prostate massage.

External Stimulation

Externally you or a partner can stimulate the prostate by placing pressure on the taint - playing around with movement or pressure. You will be able to feel it externally as the prostate gland swells when aroused.

RELATED ARTICLE: Guide to External Prostate Massage

Internal Stimulation

Internally it can be located by inserting a lubed (ALWAYS LUBED - rather go overboard with lube instead of being too conservative with it) finger, or prostate massager, about two inches in or up to the first knuckle of the index finger and making a 'come hither' motion with it towards the belly button.

Internal prostate stimulation is best for full-on prostate-induced orgasms. While externally stimulating the prostate is best when combined with penile stimulation.

RELATED ARTICLE: How to Insert a Prostate Massager

Step 1: What is Batman Without His Toolbelt?

Batman is just a man in latex without the right tools - in the case of prostate play you can accomplish a lot with just some lube and a finger or two, (or your partner's fingers). However, it can be extremely beneficial to invest in a few prostate massagers for the best results.

These are designed to hit the hottest spots and provide the most intense sexual pleasure.

Sex toys are designed for the sole purpose of ensuring that you climax. It is important to know that the most important tool is lube - it is non-negotiable for many reasons. It makes the act of prostate milking smoother, and reduces the risk of pain or discomfort - so grab your favorite lube and get ready for prostate milking pleasure.

ADDITIONAL READING: Guide to Solo Prostate Milking

Step 2: Coming Prepared!

The biggest part of achieving an orgasm through prostate massages or stimulation is preparation. A penile orgasm is easy it usually involves simple stimulation of the penis and doesn't even require a lot of prep - anal penetration on the other hand requires a little bit of preparation whether you are using your fingers or a sex toy.

Anal stimulation is one of those things that takes trial and error to perfect. Coming prepared is the best way to learn all the best tricks.

Here's how you can prepare:

  • Hygiene - Cleanliness is close to godliness especially when it comes to prostate play. Due to its location, you need to be clean when embarking on a prostate stimulation journey. As this area can harbor bacteria before and after you get started with any form of anal penetration. If you need a guide on anal douching - check out our article here.

  • Short nails - Whether you are stimulating the prostate externally or internally short nails are very important. As you are handling a very sensitive area you run the risk of injuring yourself with long or sharp nails.

  • Comfortable location - Comfort is key to getting the most out of your prostate orgasm. It is important to remember as these kinds of orgasms can be intense and full body you want a comfortable spot to enjoy them in. Getting acquainted with your taint and your prostate can also involve many different positions. This means it is vital to have some cushions nearby to help you stay comfortable.

  • Get the right kind of lube - The lube market is flooded with brands of lube that sparkle, tingle, and help you glide, so choosing the right one is imperative for the best orgasmic experience. A strong lube that is water-based is best! We have a range of butt friendly lubes that are perfect for the job.

  • Toy Prep - Make sure if you are using an anal toy you have enough battery charge and that your toys are clean and within reach!

  • Set the Scene - with all that prep done and out of the way it is now time to set the scene! Dim the lights, grab a mirror if you're into seeing the climax course through your body, or light a candle whatever makes you comfortable and relaxed.

Step 3: Under Pleasurable Pressure

Before you want to jump straight in and go for gold you might want to explore external stimulation to get yourself relaxed and ready for internal prostate stimulation.

Penile stimulation is one way to ensure that you are already aroused when starting out with anal play. From there you might want to begin stimulating the prostate externally by putting pressure on the area between your perrenium and your scrotum. This external stimulation works well with lubed fingers or a prostate massager set to vibrate.

Gently find the right pressure that works for you. Once you've worked this area and feel like it's time to dip into the honey pot - gently slowly go for it.

Step 4: Prostate Massage Right In The Feels

Prostate orgasms are intense and often considered full-body orgasms. They can truly rock you to your core. While that might be true it is also a very unique to your experience.

For this step, we recommend experimenting with the right position. Whether you prefer being on your knees and bending forward like in doggy style or getting comfortable on your side - the choice is yours.

Ultimately, finding the best position for prostate orgasm comes down to trial-and-error, and personal preference.

Once in position, slide your lubbed finger or toy in and begin exploring. The trick is not to expect fireworks immediately - instead, your orgasm should be looked at as a journey.

RELATED ARTICLE: Top 5 Best Position for Prostate Massage

Step 5: Deep Exploration

It is important to remember that finding the spot is only part of the process. There is a little more to it after that.

Once you have found the sweet spot - begin exploring it. Here's how you can inch your way towards a mind-blowing prostate orgasm.

This walnut-shaped gland is versatile and responds to many different sensations and ways of being stimulated.

Try exploring what works for you.

There are three basic motions that get any prostate excited.:

  • Stroking – we mention this one a few times it is the basic “come-hither.” It is performed by applying lube and inserting a finger all the way in - about two inches up the anus. Angle toward the belly button and hook your finger in a "come-hither" motion. Gently stroking and feeling the prostate. The P-spot can be stimulated like this with a finger or a prostate massager that mimics this motion... (we have one for that.)

  • Pressing – Poke the bear - press a doorbell - we have found that putting pressure on the p spot is also another way of inching it towards pleasure by increasing the intensity and sensitivity of the glad through the use of pressure.

  • Circling – When you discover your prostate - you might find that running your finger in a circular motion over it can provide the most tantalizing sensations. By circling over the prostate you can stimulate it fully allowing for a full and intense internal feeling.

RELATED ARTICLE: What Does a Prostate Orgasm Feel Like?

Fingers Galore

If you're using your fingers this is a great way to get to know your anatomy, to get the lay of the land, and to find the right spots. Gently explore rubbing and teasing the area until you find a softer spot that feels like a walnut.

This is the sweet spot - it might make you feel like the sudden urge to pee has arrived.

That's when you know you've found it. You will need to play around with the sensation that works for you, whether it is making a "come hither" motion with hooked fingers facing toward your belly button, applying pressure where you like it, or a gentle in-and-out motion pushing on and over the prostate - go with what works for you.

If you are only using your fingers you'll want to continue this until you climax. For some, this can happen fast while for others it can take time. If you want you can explore penile stimulation at the same time for a double whammy.

If you are opting to use a toy now is the time to switch over. Start with a prostate massager for beginners.

RELATED ARTICLE: What is The Best Prostate Massager for Beginners?

Sweet Sweet Vibrations

Once you've found your sweet spot you can opt to switch from fingers to a toy. Gently insert your favorite anal play toy and turn it on - getting into position. Make sure it is lubed up.

Once you have found the right spot go ahead and turn your attention reaching a climax - either letting your toy do all the work or giving it a guided hand and directing the pressure and sensation to the right spots.

You will begin to feel the contractions of bliss circulating through your body. The prostate can produce up to 12 contractions compared to the 3 or 4 from a simple penile orgasm.

So to say they are intense is an understatement. The most important part of a prostate orgasm is to enjoy it.

You might be surprised to note that while it's an intense full-body orgasm - you can recover and reload a lot faster and might be ready to go again!

RELATED ARTICLE: How to Insert a Prostate Massager

Fun fact

Did you know you can achieve multiple orgasms through prostate massage? Prostate orgasms have a shorter refractory period - meaning you can reload and go again in a shorter period of time. That is what makes a prostate orgasm so good. Who said women were the only ones that got multiple orgasms?

FURTHER READING: How to Achieve Multiple Orgasms With Prostate Massage

A Note on Giving Prostate Orgasms

If you are here because you'd like to give your partner a P-spot orgasm you've come to the right place! We suggest that before you just dive in and stick your fingers up their butt - you discuss it first. A prostate orgasm is intense and as it is an extremely sensitive area it is vital to let your partner know you're interested in it.

Consent is vital! It also involves preparation - getting ready for prostate play is a vital part of the process that can't be skipped - at GIDDI we don't recommend a surprise sphincter check! Always approach it like you're approaching research into any subject - gentle exploration with careful confidence.

The Gift of Prostate Stimulation

There are a multitude of benefits to stimulating this walnut-sized gland. It is not just for pleasure it has several medical benefits too!

The Benefits

There are many benefits to prostate massage.

  • Explosive orgasms

  • Stronger and longer-lasting erections

  • Reduces pain & swelling

  • May lower risk of prostate cancer

Prostate orgasms are not just about the good times - their benefits are vast and include having a better mental health outlook! So what are you waiting for?

FURTHER READING: Health Benefits of Prostate Massage

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