A Guide to External Prostate Massage

At a Glance

• No penetration required: The prostate can be stimulated through the perineum — the strip of skin between the scrotum and anus — without any internal access. It's indirect, but real.
• How to find the right spot: Start near the base of the scrotum and move toward the anus. The tissue closer to the penis is thicker; you want the softer area further back. Feeling the urge to urinate means you've found it.
• Stroke technique: Experiment with feather-light strokes and firmer pressure. Slow down, find a rhythm that builds sensation, and don't rush — overly rough handling can irritate the gland.
• Good reasons to go external: It works as a lower-stakes introduction before internal play, as foreplay that doesn't require full prep, and as a genuine alternative if internal stimulation isn't preferred.
• Health benefits apply here too: External massage improves circulation, can reduce BPH symptoms, and helps release stagnant fluid in the prostate. The gland doesn't distinguish between internal and external pressure when it comes to therapeutic effect.

Prostate massage are probably the words that brought you to this article. Perhaps your doctor recommended prostate massage therapy, or maybe you're looking to explore the world of internal prostate play all the way to achieving a prostate orgasm.

Or perhaps you are wondering what does a prostate orgasm feel like?

The external prostate massage offers a mind-blowing way to reach a full body prostate orgasm or even to just unlock the many prostate massage health benefits. At GIDDI, we're excited to bring you the latest and greatest info about stimulating the inside from the outside.

Let's dive in!

Why Should You Try External Prostate Stimulation?

Inside/outside - prostate massage is prostate massage, right? No, not quite. Why massage the prostate externally? The answer is not so clear-cut. Although the most common reason would be a simple preference over internal stimulation, there are many other reasons why an external massage might be what you're looking for.

To Support Prostate Health

In terms of actually supporting prostate wellness and sexual health in general, massaging the prostate internally or externally can help provide relief for a number of issues, including:

• Constipation

• Benign prostatic hyperplasia

• Urinary retention

• Erectile dysfunction (ED)

• Signs of infection or swelling

• Lower urinary tract symptoms

• Reduced pain associated with an inflamed prostate

If the fluid in the prostate is blocked up in the system, a massage can help release this fluid along with sperm. This could serve as a relief point; some healthcare providers even ask for this fluid as a sample to test for other potential health conditions.

Diving deeper into external prostatic massage, you can start to see that it is not just about pleasure. It offers unrivaled health benefits. Prostate stimulation and external massage can help relieve pain and swelling and improve overall prostate health.

More specifically, prostate massage has been known as an effective therapy in treating benign prostatic hyperplasia (BPH for short!)

Benign Prostatic Hyperplasia

Prostate milking or external massage is used to treat BPH symptoms such as frequent urination, weak urine stream, and difficulty starting urination can be quite troublesome. By gently massaging the prostate gland, accumulated fluids are released, which can reduce swelling and pressure on the urethra. This can lead to improved urine flow and reduced discomfort.

So, if you are experiencing any of these symptoms, why not give solo prostate milking a try? It could make a big difference in your daily routine!

Massaging the prostate can also help improve blood flow, promote better overall prostate health, and even reduce inflammation. This, in turn, also helps reduce the risks associated with prostate cancer. As well as benefitting your sexual pleasure and improved ejaculation in some men.

We can safely say you have not lived until you've had a prostate orgasm!

FURTHER READING: Learn more about how to check for prostate cancer at home.

It's Just What You Prefer

When it comes to choosing between internal or external prostate massages, it usually comes down to one thing: personal preference. Whether you are interested in it for masturbation, foreplay, or even health reasons, an external prostate massage can provide many of the benefits of a penetrative massage without the actual anal penetration.

This is one of the reasons why external prostate massage therapy has become popular - you can experience the mind-blowing sensations of prostate-induced orgasms before you dive into internal stimulation if you're being cautious.

Find the right beginner prostate massager with our guide.

Everyone responds to prostate stimulation in their own way. You may have found this article because you are not ready for internal prostate stimulation yet, or maybe you've already done that and want to try something different - or perhaps you want to introduce your partner to anal stimulation slowly. It is also great for times when a penile orgasm is not enough and you've not had time to prepare for full-on butt play!

External sexual stimulation is ideal for when you want to increase your mind-body connection and take yourself from having good penile orgasms to an intense orgasm. This allows you to learn more about how your body responds to certain situations.

FURTHER READING: Learn more about how to have a prostate orgasm!

Understanding the Prostate

This special gland plays a critical role in orgasms, and understanding it is vital if you want to dive into the world of multiple orgasms that reach every part of your body.

A deeper understanding of the P-spot and its massage can change the way you orgasm, thanks to the power that the gland holds while it fits snuggly inside the body just on the other side of the penis.

The prostate, or the "P-spot," is right behind the bladder and right in front of the rectum. This walnut-sized gland is wrapped around the urethra.

The prostate primarily produces prostatic fluid, which feeds and carries sperm cells. After sperm is produced, it combines with the fluid, creating a generally white and milky semen. (The texture and consistency can vary depending on your diet and hydration levels!)

During sexual activity or intercourse, the prostate will introduce semen into the urethra. Realizing that the prostate plays a huge role in ejaculation helps you inch closer to a life full of multiple orgasms. (They are not just for the women out there).

Prostate orgasms have been known to have a distinct difference from orgasms through stimulation of the penis alone. Many folx have mentioned that prostate orgasms are considerably more full-bodied and typically last longer. You can also reload and head for round two faster!

Some folks are even able to achieve multiple orgasms through prostate massage.

FURTHER READING: 5 Steps to Achieving P Spot Orgasm.

How To Stimulate the Prostate

There are quite a few ways to stimulate the prostate, whether internally or externally, and with or without a partner with your fingers or even sex toys.

So grab a toy or get handsy. Then settle in to read our tips on proper external prostate handling for mind-blowing orgasms that are anything but vanilla.

Ready to find your prostate sex toy match? Try our matchmaker quiz to find the right prostate massager for you.

Massaging the Perineum

When it comes to externally massaging the prostate, it's essential to understand the perineum and how it is linked to the prostate. The perineum, also known as the taint, is the area between the back of the scrotum (the sack) and the front of the anus.

The first step is to get acquainted with your perineum. Feel around and notice how your skin changes in texture. The area closer to your penis will feel thicker. Skip that. Head to the softer area towards your rear. Feeling it and getting familiar with each part will allow you to find the sweet spot. This is beyond the muscles from that frontal area; you have easier access to the prostate gland.

Ignore the Urge

You'll know you've found the right place if you feel a sudden urge to pee. Ignore it. Your prostate enables urine to head from your bladder to your urethra as needed. When you ejaculate, it shuts those pathways, letting semen flow instead.

During an external prostate massage, you aren't ejaculating, so when the fluid heads into the urethra and penis, your body gets confused and associates the feeling with peeing.

Soft Sweet Strokes

Experiment with feather-soft and careful strokes along the perineum, then try firm and faster touching. The trick is to go slow and find your pace. Be mindful that the prostate can become worn out or even injured if you play too rough. Go slow and ramp things up as you get used to the experience.

If you need a few ideas, think of general massage techniques or what you usually like in bed. Whatever touches turn you on might be a good way to begin.

From this point, all you need to do is go as far as you want - perhaps using external prostate massage as a form of foreplay in solo or even partnered play.

FURTHER READING: Is masturbation healthy?

Take Advantage of Prostate Massage Therapy

Remember, you aren't limited to your hands. External massages could also come from sex toys and devices. But who says you have to choose?

Spoiler alert: our prostate massagers help do both.

Our rotating prostate massager, Thor, pairs a 360° internal head with a dedicated perineum stimulator, so external pressure builds while internal rotation works the gland from inside. The come-hither prostate massager, Tomo II, takes a two-headed approach, combining its beckoning motion inside with nine vibration modes pressed against the perineum.

For many people with a prostate, that combination of internal and external stimulation is where the most intense sensations come from, which is exactly what these toys are designed for.

Our prostate vibrators are definitely bigger than the average finger, so you may have to work up to it, but once you do … prepare to have your mind blown.

LEARN MORE: Not sure where to start with toys? We wrote a guide to anal toys!

How To Introduce Your Partner to Prostate Massage

Formal sex education for partner play mostly follows much of the same information you can find above. Incorporating external massages into anal play with a partner is easier than you think. Conversations about sex can be uncomfortable. Conversations about prostate massage may be downright awkward. The general rule of thumb is to just go with it.

If you and your partner are in tune - you might discover they are down for it!

If either of you laugh nervously, that's okay. Figure out what you want to say. Better yet, read our guide on prostate massage. It offers a few tips to take the mystery out of anal play (and kick your inhibitions out of the door). You could always send them the link with a few winks to start the conversation.

Either way, you'll learn a few things about prostate massage (and its benefits) you may not have known before.

Ready To Take It All In?

Now you know all about external prostate massage, you have the tools to listen to your body (and your partner). If something hurts or doesn't feel right, stop. Start slow and communicate. No one is a mind reader. If you're flying solo, take your time. There's no rush. The goal is to find the prostate and figure out what works for you.

The prostate, like most erogenous zones, can be tricky. Bridging the gap between the known and the new - it is also the perfect starting place if you are looking to rekindle your sex life. Once you've got the conversation going, you'll definitely want to get to know Tomo II, our award-winning prostate massager.

Say goodbye to boring climaxes and welcome a world of intense, full-body prostate orgasm that satisfies your every need!