How to Milk a Prostate: The Complete Guide

How to Milk a Prostate: The Complete Guide

Have you ever explored your P-spot? If you don’t know what or where the P-spot is, you’re in for a special treat. Milking your prostate can be internal or external, depending on comfort level, sensitivity, or personal preference. 

Every penis owner has a prostate, but most folx don’t know that this tiny gland can offer a TON of pleasure. Prostate milking can be a healthy exercise for folx to do regularly. It can be practiced for sexual and even health-related reasons. 

Before getting started, let’s discuss some of the benefits of milking the prostate: 

  • Prostate milking can help ease pressure and swelling by releasing fluids that build up in the prostate. 
  • Prostate milking can help ease swelling in the urethra and improve urine retention.
  • Prostate milking can help detect potential medical conditions. Your doctor may even suggest practicing regular prostate milking to help with benign prostatic hyperplasia (BPH), erectile dysfunction, and prostate enlargement.

So, if you're looking for insight into how to milk a prostate, you’ve come to the right place. Here’s what you need to know.

What is the Prostate?

How to Milk a Prostate: The Complete Guide

According to urologist Paul Turek, M.D., the organ is about the size of a walnut. It wraps around the urethra, the tube through which urine travels. The prostate gland, or the P-spot, is located in front of the rectum and behind the bladder. 

The prostate produces prostatic fluid, which feeds and carries sperm cells. After sperm are produced, the sperm will combine with the fluid and create milky sperm.

During sexual activity, the prostate introduces semen into the urethra. You can reach climax and have an incredible orgasm through prostate stimulation, but these orgasms may differ from those triggered by penis stimulation.

Prostate orgasms are known to have a distinct difference from orgasms through stimulating the penis alone. Many folx have even mentioned that prostate orgasms are considerably more full-bodied feeling orgasms.

Not only does the possibility of multiple orgasms open up further, but there is also the possibility of opening up a new host of diverse sexual experiences by stimulating the prostate. 

How to Find the Prostate

With a bit of guidance, the prostate gland is not difficult to find. Older men may have a slightly larger prostate that is relatively easier to find (the prostate can grow as big as a plum or larger with age!). 

Before a prostate massage, try getting yourself aroused first. When the penis is erect, the prostate can be easier to find because the gland swells and becomes more accessible.

You can find the prostate gland directly at the root of the penis, inside the rectum, and below the bladder. You should feel a slight lump or bulge in the area, and when you apply a bit of pressure, you may initially feel an urge to urinate.

What is Prostate Milking?

How to Milk a Prostate: The Complete Guide

Prostate milking is the activity of stimulating the prostate gland by applying direct pressure against it with a finger through the rectum. The prostate gland feels like a fleshy bulb of tissue on the front wall of the rectal lining. 

“Milking” refers to massaging the prostate until prostate fluid comes out of the penis. To stimulate the prostate, you can also use massagers, like a vibrating prostate massager.

Beginners must start slowly and gently before fully engaging in prostate milking. It might be easier to start with a solo job, but if you want your partner to do the honors, try incorporating this starter's technique.

  • Apply a generous amount of lube to the anus.

  • Then, slowly introduce one finger into the anus, starting with the tip up to the first finger knuckle

  • Remove your finger slowly, reapply the anal lube and reintroduce the finger in an attempt to go deeper.

  • Allow your finger to explore the booty with a “come hither” motion.

  • Repeat until you reach up towards your belly button and find a round bulb (the prostate).

  • With your finger, gently rub around the bulb to your comfort level (avoid using your fingernails). 

In “The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure,” sex educators Dr. Charlie Glickman and Aislinn Emirzian note that:

“There’s a point at which too much pressure becomes uncomfortable or painful. Resist the temptation to dig in hard in the hope that it will make you feel more. Chances are, it will only make you feel more discomfort.”

It is important to listen to your body every time you attempt to milk your prostate. If something feels wrong, it's better to dial it back, take a break, or even make a hard stop before you continue.

Can Anyone Have Their Prostate Milked?

Any individual born with male genitalia can experience prostate milking or a prostate orgasm. That being said, not every person with a prostate will find the sensation enjoyable or be comfortable enough for prostate stimulation through the backdoor.

Prostate milking DOES NOT make you gay. Many straight men enjoy milking their own prostate, and many women enjoy milking their partner’s prostate.

Ever tried pegging? We highly recommend giving it a try. Checkout our article on How to Introduce Pegging in the Bedroom.

What Makes Prostate Orgasms Unique?

How to Milk a Prostate: The Complete Guide

There are different types of orgasms, and each feels totally unique. While most people with a penis are used to reaching orgasm through penile stimulation, they’re usually not as acquainted with the sensation of prostate-induced orgasms.

A P-spot orgasm involves massaging – or “milking” – the prostate gland through the rectal wall of your finger or prostate massager. The “milk” refers to the thin, milky prostatic fluid that’s released when the prostate is stimulated.

To put it simply, it feels like you’re being stroked from the inside.

The feeling of a prostate orgasm can be described as having more depth and intensity than a regular orgasm. Especially for cisgender men who may have never explored the possibilities of anal play, a prostate orgasm can give new and exciting feelings that reveal the sexual opportunities within our bodies.

What Does a Prostate Orgasm Feel Like?

On a scale from one to otherworldly, a prostate orgasm feels like they’re coming from deep within the body. Once the sensation hits you, it’s a totally overwhelming experience. 

Prostate orgasms may also last longer, be more intense and felt throughout the body, and can lead to multiple orgasms. The sensations are that intense with no refractory period.

Prostate massage can also lead to increased ejaculation volume and result in stronger, longer-lasting erections.

What to Know Before Milking 

Hitting the P-spot may feel like you have to pee or poop. Depending on what you're into, this may not be preferable, but it is normal. 

A little trial and error can also be expected, especially on your first attempt. So go slow and be patient while your body adjusts to the new sensation, and remember to take advantage of anal toys to help stimulate the prostate.

Explore the P-Spot 

It can be challenging for beginners to have a P-spot orgasm, but that doesn’t mean it’s not worth a try. As with any sex play, it helps keep the goal firmly on pleasure rather than just achieving orgasm.

This exploration can involve playing with the prostate during other sex play you already enjoy, like oral sex, hand jobs, and masturbation. It can also include trying out new sensations, movements, and toys (more on that below), to experience the feeling, not necessarily using it to climax.

Come Prepared with Anal Lube

Lots of lube is absolutely mandatory when it comes to anal play. Remember to use quality water-based lube, like the Wicked Jelle Water Based Anal Lube, which will stay exactly where it is put. That means no drips, no mess, no runs, and no smell. 

Don’t Forget the Toys

Ah, who does not love a good sex toy? Toys or tools can take prostate milking to greater heights and pleasure. 

We recommend starting with our Tomo II Beginner Bundle, but we also have other options that may suit your needs. 


Curious about what toys and tools would work well with prostate milking? Check out these options:

  • Prostate massagers
  • Vibrators
  • Cock rings
  • Dildos
  • Strap-ons
  • Beads
  • Remote controlled devices

Building up comfort to these may take time, but once you get the hang of them, GIDDI holds host to many different options that may pique your fancy!

Get Into Position

Prostate milking is all about enjoying your body. If you’re new to anal play, we recommend familiarizing yourself and learning what feels good and what doesn’t. However, getting into a comfortable position can be difficult when you need to bend your body in a way that gives good access to your anus.

The simplest solution is to get your partner involved. While not all of us have the luxury of having a partner who is happy to partake in anal play, prostate milking is a great time to experiment with different positions and find the most comfortable one for you. 

Here are some of our favorite positions for prostate milking: 

  • Doggy Style: Bending at the knees, start in a squat position for a smooth entry. Once you are comfortably seated, slowly transition to a doggy position.

  • Legs-Up: As one of the most fun options for solo play, this position allows you to explore all the sexiest parts of prostate massage without having to juggle your hands. Lie down on your back and allow your lower back and abdominal muscles to relax. You can then lift your knees to your chest, spread lubricant on both points of contact, and let the fun begin. 

  • Face Down: Like Kegel exercises, the face-down position gives you more control of your sphincter and allows you to grasp a body part or toy for control. Lie down on your stomach and insert the massager. Once set in place, straighten your body out. 

  • Fetal Position: This pose is great because it allows you to flex your muscles and get the most stimulation out of it. Lie on your side, bend your knees, and take deep breaths. 

Prep for After Care

Remember to check the labels for erosion warnings before buying sex toys and look into lubricants that are safe for massagers. 

Don’t forget to clean your toys with our Wicked Foam Toy Cleaner. We always recommend fast and easy sterilization with our UV Sterilizer Bag — this storage pouch kills 99.9% of germs with just the touch of a button. 

Milking Isn’t Always a Solo Performance 

Why keep the fun to yourself? The lovely thing about most sexual stimulation is that it does not have to be a solo affair. Sexual interaction with partners to hit the P-spot can be quite fun.

It is important to remember that communication is key before any sex play. It is best to use reasonable amounts of anal lube and a condom before engaging in anal sex to maximize comfort and safety for all parties involved.

Adding another to the mix can add complexity, but it may also end in exploring a new road for you and your partner. Like solo milking, partner play may take some warming up to.


Here at GIDDI, we hope this complete guide helps you get started on an exciting journey of prostate milking. Milking the prostate does more than lead to intense orgasms. It can lead to life-changing benefits!

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How does the prostate work? | NCBI

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