You might have questions about what to do following engaging in anal sex. Here, we’ll take you step-by-step through the best practices to care for your body and mind after an anal play session!
These practices can include:
- Checking in with your partner
- Cleaning up correctly (and gently)
- Sanitizing your sex toys
- Praising your partner
- Addressing soreness
Keep reading for a deep dive into each of these important topics! But first off, let’s talk about everything you should know about anal aftercare post-booty play.
What Is Anal Aftercare?
Anal aftercare is the act (or acts) involved with taking care of your anus and body and putting your mind at ease. The more comfortable you feel after a good anal session, the more trust you’ll gain and be enthusiastic about future booty endeavors.
The anus is a sensitive area, and any kind of penetration from a finger to a penis can be painful if not done thoughtfully. Taking care of your anus is essential to ease discomfort during anal play.
Anal play can also be nerve-wracking for beginners, so it’s also essential to be mindful of both your own and your partner's feelings after all the fun winds down, and do a little mental check-in during aftercare, too.
All of that said, here are nine little to-do’s that should be a regular part of your anal aftercare routine!
#1: First, Check-In With Your Partner
While getting frisky, check in with your partner. Maybe you both need some rest and a cuddle while chatting. Or perhaps you both need a bit of space to recover after some intense anal play. Maybe they would even appreciate a cold hydrating drink or a snack in bed to replenish the calories you burned together.
Don’t be afraid to let your partner know if you need anything as well. What’s important is understanding what you both need and respecting each other's wishes.
Besides checking in with your partner and asking about how they’re feeling, talk openly about how things went, especially about what you loved and what you didn’t. It may also be important to hear validation that your partner enjoyed themselves and assure them you did too! This applies to any sexual activity, not just anal play.
Reassurance and expressed enjoyment can do wonders for confidence, especially if one or both of you feel nervous or self-conscious. You can also talk about what you want to do differently in the future if you wish to continue.
Maybe your partner wasn’t a fan, or perhaps it wasn’t your favorite thing in the world. Make sure this is cleared up, and don’t assume that whatever you just did together will now be a regular practice without discussing it first.
Be Open to Feedback
Try not to take constructive criticism too personally. Maybe your partner didn’t enjoy something you tried to make them feel good.
You and your partner may feel vulnerable when attempting to pleasure each other in your most private areas. But as in any situation where you’re trying something new, sometimes you don’t get the response you were hoping for, and that’s totally okay.
Remember that their feedback does not reflect who you are as a person. Instead, you’re trying to build a comfortable and open space together, which requires speaking up if something isn’t working. Be willing to listen, and shift things in the future!
Chances are, your partner is still willing to keep trying. Not to mention, it can be such a turn-on getting to know them and their body over time.
After all, intimacy often comes from spending time with someone and letting them reveal themselves to you. Enjoy the process of tuning into each other's desires and fantasies. Like any skill, this can take time! But the reward of eventually knowing exactly how to turn each other on is well worth it. So be patient and enjoy the ride!
#2: Clean Things Up After Getting Down and Dirty
Aftercare TLC can include many different things to increase comfort after playtime. Lotion can feel nice on your anal area and surrounding skin, especially since lube can be drying at times, and your skin thrives on moisture!
Any kind of sex can be messy, but keeping clean during and after anal is especially important due to the health risks associated with bacteria.
After getting down with your partner, clean up thoroughly together.
Dispose of condoms and throw dirtied sheets or towels in the wash. In terms of your body, hop in the shower – solo or with your partner – to rinse off. Give your anal region extra gentle attention, especially if it feels sore.
A warm shower can also be a great way to relax your muscles and calm down after energizing sexual activity, which is a workout, after all! Unscented baby wipes can also be a convenient tool during cleanup.
A cool washcloth or ice pack can also ease any soreness. An Epsom salt bath might prove pleasurable after all the action. Showing your body some love after any sexual activity is a great way to get in touch with yourself, slow down, and be present.
Just like it’s important to check in with your partner to cultivate trust, it’s just as crucial to check in with yourself and your body! You might need some quiet time to ruminate on what you enjoyed, how it all felt, and what you’d like to try again in the future.
#3: Sanitize Your Sex Toys
As for anal sex toys, like dildos, butt plugs, vibrators, and prostate massagers, clean them immediately after each use. Make sure to wash the toys thoroughly with antibacterial soap or a sex toy cleanser, like our Wicked Foam Toy Cleaner.
Our Wicked Foam Toy Cleaner is the perfect way to clean your toys and prostate massager safely. It contains antibacterial triclosan with Olive Leaf, Thyme, and Lavender extracts. For a deep sanitization, try our UV Sterilizer Bag. It not only cleans your toys, but can be used as a storage and travel case on the go.
Also, don’t forget to diligently rinse the soap off thoroughly, as leftover soap can irritate your anus or other orifices the next time you insert your toys! Get them nice and clean for future use!
#4: Address Soreness With Some Self-TLC
Your anus and the surrounding tissue are extremely sensitive. It’s natural to experience minor soreness or discomfort after the rush of intense anal play.
When adrenaline and dopamine are running high during the act, soreness might not reveal itself until later when you’ve calmed down and relaxed.
Don't worry; it’s not necessarily a sign that something is wrong. Sex can be very physical — just like after a big workout, your muscles need some rest afterward.
Since your delicate tush and other parts of your body may be sore after a wild sexual session, it’s important to give yourself time to recover. Some people avoid engaging in anal penetration again for a couple days and prefer to take some time off in between sexual encounters. This can be a great rule of thumb to avoid tearing, especially for beginners.
Your body needs time to relax and recover. It’s important not to push yourself too far, even if you like it rough! Listen intently to your physical needs and don’t overdo it.
At GIDDI, we believe that anal exploration can be endlessly exciting and invigorating, both alone and with a partner. While it’s easy to focus on the exciting main event and overlook the aftercare, remember that slowing down to take care of your body and mind afterward is a vital part of connecting with yourself and your partner.
Any kind of sexual activity involves vulnerability, communication, and physical care!
Cleanliness, communication, and rest are all crucial parts of enjoying sex and being open to having more in the future. So slow down, and proceed with care! Both alone and with your partner in play.